Relationship Therapy
Relationship therapy services serve romantic and sexual relationships of all types, ranging from couples, friends, triads/quads, and polycules to kink & BDSM dynamics, and monogamous & non-monogamous relationships. We also specialize in sex therapy for clients who are interested in receiving support in addressing sexual intimacy in their relationships.
Relationship therapy at Moth House enforces a ‘No Secrets Policy.’ This means that, though privacy is afforded to everyone participating, your clinician will not support keeping secrets from your partner(s) in order to foster open communication and growth. They will, however, support you in sharing information with all parties at your own pace.
Sessions typically last 50-55 minutes and can incorporate a range of modalities.
Emotion-Focused Therapy & Attachment Theory
Emotion-focused therapy (EFT) is a therapeutic modality grounded in attachment theory. This modality can involve exploring the impact of attachment styles on your relationship as well as identifying moments of rupture and attachment insecurity during moments of conflict or difficulty in your relationship with your partner(s). Then, the therapist facilitates finding ways to recognize and self-regulate your emotions while also learning to co-regulate your emotions with your partner.
Developed by John and Julie Gottman, the Gottman Method primarily focuses on finding ways to build connection and shared meaning in a relationship by identifying negative or unhelpful communication patterns and “turning toward” each other during conflict to create more loving, empathetic interactions. The Gottmans have coined several couples therapy concepts such as the Four Horsemen, love maps, and the sound relationship house, and therapy sessions can focus on adapting these concepts for your relationship.
The Gottman Method
Traditional couples therapy approaches typically don’t create room for relationship structures that stray from monogamy. Our poly-informed relationships therapists draw from both lived experience as well as the latest literature on polyamory and consensual non-monogamy/ethical non-monogamy (CNM / ENM) to support clients in non-monogamous relationships. We work with our clients to help them cultivate attachment security, identify boundaries and agreements, and improve communication in their non-monogamous relationships whether they practice solo polyamory, “hierarchical” polyamory with a nesting/anchor partner, relationship anarchy with multiple partners, etc. You are welcome to work collaboratively with your poly-informed therapist to bring in romantic/sexual partners that would benefit from facilitation, mediation, and guidance.